Judging a Mother

I just had a wonderful lesson about judging people - particularly a fellow mother. I notice that if there are kids that overwhelm me or that I feel aren't nice to Ella or Sid, I don't make play dates with them. Or I try to avoid them altogether. And I judge the parents - "they are inconsistent", "they don't discipline", "they need to do something different" - but today - I got a taste of my own medicine when Ella hit someone. I wasn't in the room - I don't think Ella did it on purpose, but the other child was upset. And the mom asked me "Isn't she too old to be hitting?" "When is she going to grow out of it?" "She must have hit him hard to make my son cry!" - I was furious. I held it in as best as I could and asked the other mom "How do you want me to respond to you?"

I try really hard to teach both of you to be polite, respectful, and kind.

Rome wasn't built in a day, so I know in my heart that kids don't come out of the womb acting this way. It is up to me, your dad and the entire community to help you be lovely adults. And the next time I pass judgement on another parent, I will do my best to be part of the solution and help and not judge.